Mckeown writes about: “The Disciplined pursuit of less” in all aspects of life. To avoid being misled by the non essentials in daily day and life.
He breaks this down into:
- Explore – escape, look, play sleep and select
- Eliminate – clarify, dare, uncommon, edit and limit
- Execute – buffer, subtract, progress, flow, focus and be
The essence is really about: Choice and awareness. Being aware about what is happening inside and out side of yourself and how you have the choice to decide on your response.
We all impact the world around us. Most of us don’t think about it and don’t pay attention. However some people do.
We all admire the ones who use their impact in a positive way. But they are not the only ones who can do that. So can each and everyone of us.
“Every day, everywhere you go, you spread a virus. You decide if that virus is positive of negative.”
Quoted from Dr. John Izzo in the book: You first by Liane Davey.
Too often – not all the time – we compare ourselves to others:”Ah I am not so smart”. “I cannot do that”. “I will never be that good”. “I wish I had”.
We compare ourselves to others and measure our lives with the measures of others. This only creates frustration and disappointment. To make it even more interesting, we should ask: Who decides that we are failures, because we cannot do the stuff others do? That we have not achieved the things others have? We do. So we decide whether we are successes or failures. We set the “bar” for what is bad, ok or great. So the only one who can make us feel bad is: Ourselves. It is not the neighbour, it is not the team mate or colleague, it is ourselves. I am not arguing that we should set mediocre standards. I am saying that we decide what is acceptable and we decide whether we want to work on improving to reach what we decide is an acceptable or great standard.
Sepi Tajima has written a nice article about how we compare our selves to others.
Comparing yourself to others sucks – here is how to change that.
Sepi writes about Comparisons that sucks:
- Comparing your “reality” against other people’s “apparent reality”.
- Comparing your “beginning” with someone else’s “middle or end”.
- Comparing or being compared with things you “don’t really care about”.
- Comparing or being compared in areas you have “no power to change”.
And fortunately also add’s something about comparisons that rocks:
- Comparing yourself to your “previous version” in an uplifting way.
- Comparing yourself to those you “truly admire”
- Comparing yourself to those in “harder situations”
- Comparing or being compared in areas you “care about and can change”.
I especially subscribe to the first one: Comparing to your “previous version”. This one is for me the essential one.
Yes, we should all avoid making mistakes, but sometimes they just happen. Maybe we were not prepared for what could happen, we had not thought things properly over, maybe something unforeseen happened, maybe what we did create an unforeseen incident, maybe we created new knowledge, new insight.
Some mistakes are good mistakes, and are part of learning and developing. The important issue is that we need to learn from our mistakes and even more important that we need to learn to deal with the emotional consequences of the mistakes we make.
The following article gives some insight and advise regarding that:
Mopping up emotional messes after mistakes
I read a wonderful article about humility that I think others would also benefit from:
How humility will make you the greatest person ever
It is a nice short article about the importance and opportunities from humility. It gives 3 advises for how to cultivate humility:
- Embrace your humanness.
- Practice mindfulness and self-compassion.
- Express gratitude.
That is certainly a great question. I don’t have the answer either, but I am looking for it all the time – every single minute. I search for answers, I search for ideas.
Here I would like to collect it all. Tie it all together. When ever I stumble over something that could help me come one step further, I will post it here. Either I will call it out myself, but more likely add a link to the content of other much wiser and smarter people than myself.
One of the people I am deeply indebted to was: Steven Covey
Not that I am living his 7 habits, but that he made me think and left certain concepts in my hearth.
One being about: To live, to love, to learn and to leave a legacy, which is why I developed this site. I want to do this myself and part of it is sharing and supporting others on their own way.